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@booboo said in Happiness Scale:
I can believe that. Life in the 10th century wouldn't have been all that great.
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This has been a great read, and thanks to all those who have shared intimate details of their life. I love these Fern threads, and I always feel like I come away with some insight after reading them.
I think I'm pretty happy at the moment. My wife and I are in a relatively small class of people who have done well out of the pandemic. We kept our jobs, we discovered flexible working (which will help us achieve our dream of moving out of Sydney), we got married (albeit without the big wedding) and now we're expecting our first child in April. There's a touch of survivors guilt about it given what others have gone through.
My wider family is doing OK, though one of my siblings lost their job and is having a tough time finding another one. My wife is going through a situation many on here are facing, with her grandparents having to now go into aged care. It's taking a big toll on her family, her mother especially, but they are getting through it. It just feels like they are flying completely blind, and I just wish they could pay someone to sort it all out for them so they can direct their energies towards supporting the rest of the family.
I sometimes can't help the feeling that my life is one big rubber band, and as each good year unfolds it stretches just that little bit more. Stretching and stretching, you know the snap is going to come at some point. The late night phone call, the sudden change in job or relationship. That fear isn't based on anything more than general anxiety, but it is there. You just have to try and enjoy the good times while they last, with the acknowledgement deep down that they won't last forever.
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@Hooroo for sure, my old man is not a talker, and when I think about my Uncles he spends time with, his work mates, it does make me chuckle to think they often will sit around, beer in hand, after a quick word about the weather/rugby/fishing, hardly another word is spoken.
He hits retirement age next year, I know he has no plan as to what to do. He needs to sell his business, but I know a few of his larger clients will leave when he retires, and they form about 50% of his annual turnover.
But by the same token, he simply cannot keep doing his job (very physical) and a reason why even in our 20's he was still stronger than me and my brother!
I have been telling him and mum for ages they need to think about selling thier business and buying a Camper or something, but not sure my dad wants to be stuck in such a small space with my mum for an extended period of time haha
Such is life.
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@barbarian congrats on the pregnancy!
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@MajorRage said in Happiness Scale:
Daddy everybody should have fun, but don't get why you'd have fun doing something that makes you feel sick".
fucking judgy much?
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@barbarian said in Happiness Scale:
we discovered flexible working (which will help us achieve our dream of moving out of Sydney)
That's the dream. Doing it before the kids start school is ideal. If you can keep your city job but not pay City real estate prices, you're winning.
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@barbarian said in Happiness Scale:
we discovered flexible working (which will help us achieve our dream of moving out of Sydney)
That's the dream. Doing it before the kids start school is ideal. If you can keep your city job but not pay City real estate prices, you're winning.
True. Though we're eyeing off Wollongong, and I think by the time we end up buying there it will be pretty close to Sydney prices.
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@barbarian congrats mate! ha ha the first is a great way to smack all your priorities and happiness metrics up side the head
but having that flexibility with work will help out heaps. Does mean it's harder to flee the nest for some alone time in the office though!! -
@Hooroo said in Happiness Scale:
This thread is kind of therapeutic. Not because there are those that have had it tougher, not at all, but because we (as men) are speaking so freely about it.
It's something that our Dads probably never got to do and likely held it in.
I salute any of you that have managed to take action because of this thread.
I once told my dad I was feeling a bit anxious about my financial situation and that it was affecting my relationship. He called me a poof and told me to harden up. He then swiftly moved the conversation on to the rugby. Good times.
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@junior said in Happiness Scale:
@Hooroo said in Happiness Scale:
This thread is kind of therapeutic. Not because there are those that have had it tougher, not at all, but because we (as men) are speaking so freely about it.
It's something that our Dads probably never got to do and likely held it in.
I salute any of you that have managed to take action because of this thread.
I once told my dad I was feeling a bit anxious about my financial situation and that it was affecting my relationship. He called me a poof and told me to harden up. He then swiftly moved the conversation on to the rugby. Good times.
You post perfectly describes a big part of their generation.
Dad died when I was 17 so never really had adult conversations with him.
I imagine he would have listened but been uncomfortable about it. I really don’t know.
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@junior said in Happiness Scale:
@Hooroo said in Happiness Scale:
This thread is kind of therapeutic. Not because there are those that have had it tougher, not at all, but because we (as men) are speaking so freely about it.
It's something that our Dads probably never got to do and likely held it in.
I salute any of you that have managed to take action because of this thread.
I once told my dad I was feeling a bit anxious about my financial situation and that it was affecting my relationship. He called me a poof and told me to harden up. He then swiftly moved the conversation on to the rugby. Good times.
That made me laugh. It's so familiar.
I have a cracked rib, so laughing bloody hurts, along with any coughing and sneezing. Appreciate if you buggars would refrain from any humour (or attempts at) for about a month it would be appreciated.
Happiness scale is very low at present. Just got to roll with the punches in life.
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@junior said in Happiness Scale:
@Hooroo said in Happiness Scale:
This thread is kind of therapeutic. Not because there are those that have had it tougher, not at all, but because we (as men) are speaking so freely about it.
It's something that our Dads probably never got to do and likely held it in.
I salute any of you that have managed to take action because of this thread.
I once told my dad I was feeling a bit anxious about my financial situation and that it was affecting my relationship. He called me a poof and told me to harden up. He then swiftly moved the conversation on to the rugby. Good times.
I took some time off to help my dad freshen up a property of theirs for sale. After a long day we went to the pub to grab a meal and a cleansing ale. During dinner the conversation got around to siblings, one of whom has battled depression for a considerable part of his life when my father admitted he had too and been in some very dark places. I couldn't wait for the discussion to change. Simply didn't like the thought.
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@Snowy said in Happiness Scale:
@junior said in Happiness Scale:
@Hooroo said in Happiness Scale:
This thread is kind of therapeutic. Not because there are those that have had it tougher, not at all, but because we (as men) are speaking so freely about it.
It's something that our Dads probably never got to do and likely held it in.
I salute any of you that have managed to take action because of this thread.
I once told my dad I was feeling a bit anxious about my financial situation and that it was affecting my relationship. He called me a poof and told me to harden up. He then swiftly moved the conversation on to the rugby. Good times.
That made me laugh. It's so familiar.
I have a cracked rib, so laughing bloody hurts, along with any coughing and sneezing. Appreciate if you buggars would refrain from any humour (or attempts at) for about a month it would be appreciated.
Happiness scale is very low at present. Just got to roll with the punches in life.
Better stay off the memes page then
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@Snowy said in Happiness Scale:
@MN5 said in Happiness Scale:
Better stay off the memes page then
The Leo / ghostbusters / ghost movie had me in agony.
Exactly what I was referring to
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@barbarian said in Happiness Scale:
we're eyeing off Wollongong, and I think by the time we end up buying there it will be pretty close to Sydney prices.
That 2-hour "fringe" is interesting. I remember being in an angry place about living in Sydney about a decade ago, thinking it would be cool to move to somewhere like Goulburn - prices were only about 10% lower than Western Sydney! You got a bit more land for your money of course. Even now if you want a block out there with a house you'll pay north of a million. And it is cold as fuck.
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