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@Kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
@Paekakboyz said in Happiness Scale:
no onions...just the last ep of the Mandalorian...
It's up there with Empire Strikes Back and Revenge of the Sith. The emotions are so strong.....
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@voodoo said in Happiness Scale:
Fucking StarWars nerds hijacking every thread now 😎
take youre pick
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Jesus H Christ.
This thread took a turn for the deep over the weekend. And it's been extremely enlightening, if not always in a positive way.
I don't really have any large scale problems, just internal ones really that I need to solve. And two things have put that all into perspective. The rest of this thread and a chat with my 6 year old daughter. I can't speak for others (but I suspect it's the same), the 6 year old girl perspective on things is always so enlightening and refreshing. Her logic is just so straight forwards, and somehow or other, just seem to contain the right level of emotion. Saturday was classic for that. I was hungover as a dog and my daughter asked why I was so poorly. So I was honest and she replied "Daddy everybody should have fun, but don't get why you'd have fun doing something that makes you feel sick".
Solid advice that. She then gave me a large hug as she said that always makes her feel better so she leaned back and asked if I felt better. Amazing times. Of course a few hours later she had a massive tantrum over something stupid, but you gotta take the good with the bad
Anyway, ultimately all must do what you need to to do to keep your head above water. The outside looking in, is never the same as the inside looking out. If that were the case, we'd certainly still have Chris Cornell, Dan Vickerman & a few other people who I actually knew who lived amazing lives.
Thanks for sharing everybody, and like others, if ever want to chat / discuss something that perhaps not comfortable in person, TSF is always here.
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@MajorRage said in Happiness Scale:
Jesus H Christ.
This thread took a turn for the deep over the weekend. And it's been extremely enlightening, if not always in a positive way.
I don't really have any large scale problems, just internal ones really that I need to solve. And two things have put that all into perspective. The rest of this thread and a chat with my 6 year old daughter. I can't speak for others (but I suspect it's the same), the 6 year old girl perspective on things is always so enlightening and refreshing. Her logic is just so straight forwards, and somehow or other, just seem to contain the right level of emotion. Saturday was classic for that. I was hungover as a dog and my daughter asked why I was so poorly. So I was honest and she replied "Daddy everybody should have fun, but don't get why you'd have fun doing something that makes you feel sick".
Solid advice that. But then of course she gave me a large hug as she said that always makes her feel better so she leaned back and asked if I felt better. Amazing times. Of course a few hours later she had a massive tantrum over something stupid, but you gotta take the good with the bad
Anyway, ultimately all must do what you need to to do to keep your head above water. The outside looking in, is never the same as the inside looking out. If that were the case, we'd certainly still have Chris Cornell, Dan Vickerman & a few other people who I actually knew who lived amazing lives.
Thanks for sharing everybody, and like others, if ever want to chat / discuss something that perhaps not comfortable in person, TSF is always here.
Haha that made me chuckle. Reminds me of the time my boys said I smelt like a petrol station after a rather large night on the rums.
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@MajorRage said in Happiness Scale:
Solid advice that. She then gave me a large hug as she said that always makes her feel better so she leaned back and asked if I felt better. Amazing times. Of course a few hours later she had a massive tantrum over something stupid, but you gotta take the good with the bad
Agreed. My daughter is 13 now, and we have had the best conversations about all sorts of shit over the last couple of years. We share concerns for her mother's mental health with all this work bullshit, for example.
However, I've been informed she likes a boy, and even showed me where he lives and told me what his name is.
Poor bastard.
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Happy, healthy, unwealthy.
But the unwealthy is directly linked to my life & career choices.
But I definitely favour unwealthy over unhealthy.
Made the most of 2020 despite losing a lot of work and income.
It’ll come back.
Just celebrated 10 years with my partner Nerys. 10 months was the longest relationship prior to meeting her.
Both very happy.
Just had a belated 54th birthday celebration this past weekend with 3 days skiing in the Brecon Beacons National Park, Wales with lads half my age.
Unapologetically life is great.
But Nerys and I are both glass 7/8 full people.
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This thread is kind of therapeutic. Not because there are those that have had it tougher, not at all, but because we (as men) are speaking so freely about it.
It's something that our Dads probably never got to do and likely held it in.
I salute any of you that have managed to take action because of this thread.
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@booboo said in Happiness Scale:
I can believe that. Life in the 10th century wouldn't have been all that great.
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This has been a great read, and thanks to all those who have shared intimate details of their life. I love these Fern threads, and I always feel like I come away with some insight after reading them.
I think I'm pretty happy at the moment. My wife and I are in a relatively small class of people who have done well out of the pandemic. We kept our jobs, we discovered flexible working (which will help us achieve our dream of moving out of Sydney), we got married (albeit without the big wedding) and now we're expecting our first child in April. There's a touch of survivors guilt about it given what others have gone through.
My wider family is doing OK, though one of my siblings lost their job and is having a tough time finding another one. My wife is going through a situation many on here are facing, with her grandparents having to now go into aged care. It's taking a big toll on her family, her mother especially, but they are getting through it. It just feels like they are flying completely blind, and I just wish they could pay someone to sort it all out for them so they can direct their energies towards supporting the rest of the family.
I sometimes can't help the feeling that my life is one big rubber band, and as each good year unfolds it stretches just that little bit more. Stretching and stretching, you know the snap is going to come at some point. The late night phone call, the sudden change in job or relationship. That fear isn't based on anything more than general anxiety, but it is there. You just have to try and enjoy the good times while they last, with the acknowledgement deep down that they won't last forever.
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@Hooroo for sure, my old man is not a talker, and when I think about my Uncles he spends time with, his work mates, it does make me chuckle to think they often will sit around, beer in hand, after a quick word about the weather/rugby/fishing, hardly another word is spoken.
He hits retirement age next year, I know he has no plan as to what to do. He needs to sell his business, but I know a few of his larger clients will leave when he retires, and they form about 50% of his annual turnover.
But by the same token, he simply cannot keep doing his job (very physical) and a reason why even in our 20's he was still stronger than me and my brother!
I have been telling him and mum for ages they need to think about selling thier business and buying a Camper or something, but not sure my dad wants to be stuck in such a small space with my mum for an extended period of time haha
Such is life.
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@barbarian congrats on the pregnancy!
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@MajorRage said in Happiness Scale:
Daddy everybody should have fun, but don't get why you'd have fun doing something that makes you feel sick".
fucking judgy much?
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@barbarian said in Happiness Scale:
we discovered flexible working (which will help us achieve our dream of moving out of Sydney)
That's the dream. Doing it before the kids start school is ideal. If you can keep your city job but not pay City real estate prices, you're winning.
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@barbarian said in Happiness Scale:
we discovered flexible working (which will help us achieve our dream of moving out of Sydney)
That's the dream. Doing it before the kids start school is ideal. If you can keep your city job but not pay City real estate prices, you're winning.
True. Though we're eyeing off Wollongong, and I think by the time we end up buying there it will be pretty close to Sydney prices.
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@barbarian congrats mate! ha ha the first is a great way to smack all your priorities and happiness metrics up side the head
but having that flexibility with work will help out heaps. Does mean it's harder to flee the nest for some alone time in the office though!!
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