Grumpy Old Man
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@majorrage said in Grumpy Old Man:
Need to vent. This seems as good a place as any.
Fucking families. So as all who care, know, I live in the UK. Predominantly because my wife's family is massive (she's one of 6) and mine is pretty small. And mine love to travel (fuck you Covid). So it makes the most sense, and we have, right up until last weekend, a very close relationship with all her sisters & their worse halves / kids. Lots of family get togethers & sharing of things - it's great.
Last weekend, sister number 2 moved back to UK from HK. And it's changed absolutely everything, and all of it is to the detriment of the Rage family. I don't mind number 2, she's very driven, single minded and direct. I like that. We don't really have anything in common, but I understand where she is coming from. She's married to bit of a piss-taker who takes responsibility for their their daughter and dogs. You'll see where this is going shortly.
So all got together at eldest sisters place last long weekend. She lives in a massive house in Surrey (about 5 miles from us) with heated pool etc so 24 of us diverged on it. 5 sisters, 5 husbands, 2 sister in laws & husbands & 10 kids & 4 dogs. One big happy family.
Issue 1. Their fucking dog mauled our dog. Not just had a wee fight, mauled. 6 puncture wounds which we had to take to emergency vet. No idea what happened, but our cockapoo is completely submissive. And their sharpei cross is, well, not. Anyway saturday avo we all chilling and then our dog suddenly let out this huge panicked howl. Rushed across and saw what was going on. Our dog is now hugely traumatised and not the same as she was. Has started panic pissing all the time again (including inside) and just isn't quite the same. Going on for 9 days now, only hope it improves.
Issue 2. Their 10 year old daughter mentally bullied the shit out of my 7 year old. She's always been very very close to her 12 year old cousin (who is super quiet). But miss 10 decided she wanted miss 12 all to herself, and just got in between them at all times, said really spiteful things, and did stupid girl things like arrange to run away from my daughter all the time. Upshot is, my 7 year old cried on Sunday and refused to stay. So we took her home (wife was home with dog, so could pick ups up) and the next morning she got really upset about going back. Basically her relationship with miss 12 is now toast.
Now both of these things suck. But what's worse, is that since then, despite the Rage family having 2 out of 5 members fucked over, everybody else is just treating it as if nothing happened. Constantly sending messages about how sister 2 feels bad about the dog, yet neither my wife nor I has received a single thing from her or her piss taking husband. And to do with the daughters ... just seems to be "3 strong characters, these things will happen from time to time". Which is just horseshit. My daughter got trashed by these two bitches which is going to make it super difficult to see the family going forwards. And nobody seems to give a shit. Still putting loads of pictures of miss 10 and miss 12 together with their little bitchy smirks going on. Really upsets my wife, which obviously rubs on to me.
Makes me question what the fucking point is.
I feel better already. Thanks for listening.
They're jealous or insufferable so sod them. Take your little family away and post photos of all the fun you are having instead.
Shame about the dog, that sort of episode will affect it long-term.
Daughters and cousins-can take months to recover if your child is sensitive but it's a great longterm thing to learn that friendship is fragile. -
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@r-l said in Grumpy Old Man:
@nostrildamus said in Grumpy Old Man:
reduces the sex drive
Surely you mean increases?
I’m not whether he’s referring to mine or Mrs Cato’s. Academic really anyway.
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@majorrage ah man, this is sad when it's the pets and kids getting hurt. Feel for your daughter, my little girl (E) is just a friend to everyone, loves playing and has 2 girl cousins from different families that put her in the middle all the time as neither like each other but love my girl. She ends up asking in advance now if they will both be there, usually puts her off wanting to go. She hates the drama and you can tell that one of the girls in particular plans her nastiness, like she will bring sweets or a toy for E but leave the other out and I end up having to sabotage her plan and take it away "for later". I don't get why her parents don't see it as a problem. As a parent my number 1 goal is to keep my girl safe and 2 teach her to be good human.
Large families are shit as a rule. Too many people showing off or siding with eachother. I hate it.
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@r-l old married man joke, not serious
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@r-l said in Grumpy Old Man:
he will bring sweets or a toy for E but leave the other out and I end up having to sabotage her plan and take it away "for later".
Wisdom.
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@catogrande said in Grumpy Old Man:
@r-l said in Grumpy Old Man:
@nostrildamus said in Grumpy Old Man:
reduces the sex drive
Surely you mean increases?
I’m not whether he’s referring to mine or Mrs Cato’s. Academic really anyway.
I was however serious that there must be another underlying reason (why she bought it and resists returning it) but buggered if I know what it is ...
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@nostrildamus the answer is obvious, us women are always right?? Mrs Cato owes no bugger an explanation
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@r-l said in Grumpy Old Man:
@nostrildamus the answer is obvious, us women are always right?? Mrs Cato owes no bugger an explanation
Correct. She just owes me £139
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@catogrande said in Grumpy Old Man:
@r-l said in Grumpy Old Man:
@nostrildamus the answer is obvious, us women are always right?? Mrs Cato owes no bugger an explanation
Correct. She just owes me £139
Poppycock! What's yours is hers.
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@r-l said in Grumpy Old Man:
@catogrande said in Grumpy Old Man:
@r-l said in Grumpy Old Man:
@nostrildamus the answer is obvious, us women are always right?? Mrs Cato owes no bugger an explanation
Correct. She just owes me £139
Poppycock! What's yours is hers.
Not quite. It seems like the £139 is hers and the useless toothbrush is mine.
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@catogrande don't forget to floss!!
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@Catogrande probably not worth the battle TBH. I would just write it off and store the situation up for the future when she tells you something you want is too expensive. "Says the woman that spent £139 on a toothbrush..."
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@no-quarter Hmm - has that sort of comment ever worked? Ever?
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Somebody please explain to me why a new computer monitor is sent with HDMI port and cables and new computers video cards come with only VGA or display port. Third time it has happened to me. Flat learning curve on my part but a computer and a display should be compatible FFS.
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@dogmeat said in Grumpy Old Man:
@no-quarter Hmm - has that sort of comment ever worked? Ever?
Rhetorical I assume.
We all know the answer.
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@snowy said in Grumpy Old Man:
Somebody please explain to me why a new computer monitor is sent with HDMI port and cables and new computers video cards come with only VGA or display port. Third time it has happened to me. Flat learning curve on my part but a computer and a display should be compatible FFS.
It could be worse, your work could get you a monitor for your laptop that doesn't have an HDMI port and which necessitates buy three other pieces of equipment to use it (hub, two types of cables). I am unsure how this can be a cheaper option than just buying monitors with HDMI ports to go with our laptops that include an HDMI cable in the box.
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@victor-meldrew said in Grumpy Old Man:
@r-l said in Grumpy Old Man:
@victor-meldrew bloody hell... Looks like Mr Snow has a new partner in crime...
Getting medieval on people who mess with your car isn't a crime - it's a civic duty.
Then I'd expect to see far more Honda hatchback owners patrolling the streets in dark hoods armed with little chrome shurikens.
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@bones said in Grumpy Old Man:
@Snowy @Nepia just a thought, but maybe you guys could try shopping in this millennium? I had no idea it was even possible to buy anything new without hdmi or displayport.
Don’t include me, I’m talking about what my work supplies it’s staff. I thought the exact same thing as you too.
