Modern Day Parenting
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<p>Reading a story to your kid when they are in bed, and all tucked up another your arm is one the great pleasures of being a parent. Being interactive with them around the colours, pictures and getting them to turn the pages etc is really nice.</p>
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<p>And that feeling when you can feel them going to sleep, so you tuck them in and leave the room. Well, the room gets a little dusty, that's all I'm going to say.</p>
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<p>Right, time for a beer or a shit or something. </p>
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<p>Lost count of the amount of times I woke up in my boys bed as we both fell asleep reading a story when it was just the two of us. Unfortunately kids beds aren't built for two so I would wake up because I was cold and contorted to try and stay on the bed.</p> -
I've read to my kids every night since the first was born. It's great because I love doing it, and I'm convinced it's why my eldest's reading age is so far advanced. And I love that he now reads himself every night after story time.
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<p>Yeah we do books every night the kids look forward to it I think. Little yellow digger perky the pukeko, old school like Hairy Mcleary and even some stuff not written a million years ago.</p>
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<p>Both are booked in to get grommets next week for their ears, hopefully that will be the end of it. But we shall see.</p> -
<p>This is just a vent more than anything else.</p>
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<p>My daughter is 14 and a stunner. She looks 18 and she knows it. The last year and a half has been pretty close to hell for all three of us. Me. my wife and my daughter. My son doesn't really seem to give a shit and just seems to crack jokes when we're clashing heads.</p>
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<p>I don't imagine its anything no-one else has been through but for my sample size of the world its been shit. All made more perplexing by the fact she is an exceptional student.</p>
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<p>We've had the usual rebellious behaviour. running away - worst night of my life - verbally abusing her mother but worst of all(and no matter how many times i said never, ever do it) sending compromising photo's of her self to boys. I am a young father so I guess I have a few new school ideas** about fatherhood and I have always encouraged her to be open about boys and my only real rule to date is that if she has boyfriend I am to know. Not so i can control the relationship but so she feels like she doesn't need to hide anything from us and she can feel comfortable. The reverse of course is what happens. </p>
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<p>My wife has the sex discussions and we try to make it clear that its pretty hard to do you OE, go to uni or get a job straight out of school if you're raising a child. We hope it sinks in.</p>
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<p>But its a fucking mine field. Trying not to stifle her development by setting too many boundaries while trying to maintain the ones that you have. There is light at the end of the tunnel for us though. She's been incident free for about 6 months now and shes not so interested in her devices anymore. One can hope.</p>
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<p>My son on the other hand aside from a bit of a nasty streak when it comes to sharing a bathroom with his big sister, tipping her products down the toilet, is almost the perfect child. For now.</p>
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<p>We are caring, involved parents and we now when to discipline and to give them space but some times shit just happens and no amount of best intentions and sound parenting can overcome it.</p>
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<p>**I still have some old school ideas too about fucking up any little c*nt that a, hurts or b.impregnates my daughter.</p> -
Obviously a small sample size her, but it seems girls can be a much bigger problem than boys. Personally I've always been relieved that I only have boys. I know how they think and how they'll have to struggle not to act like semi-evolved Neanderthals. Boys do stupid shit, but so long as they don't die they'll generally be ok. But girls... I stayed with some friends overseas recently. They have two girls aged 4 and 6. The 6 year old took a liking to me and it was a joy to spend time with her. I took her to school each day, took her to the playground and cafe, watched Frozen with her, and she was really sad when I had to leave. It was lovely, but it reaffirmed my belief that it was better to have boys. That angel will, suddenly and probably without warning, morph into a little bitch with an attitude. Add the fact that pimply little shits will be trying to get in her pants and yeah, fark that. <br><br>
Those with daughters here, I salute you and wish you all the best. May your little angels remain that way. Those with 3 daughters... I'm sure there are support groups for that. -
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<p>Obviously a small sample size her, but it seems girls can be a much bigger problem than boys. Personally I've always been relieved that I only have boys. I know how they think and how they'll have to struggle not to act like semi-evolved Neanderthals. Boys do stupid shit, but so long as they don't die they'll generally be ok. But girls... I stayed with some friends overseas recently. They have two girls aged 4 and 6. The 6 year old took a liking to me and it was a joy to spend time with her. I took her to school each day, took her to the playground and cafe, watched Frozen with her, and she was really sad when I had to leave. It was lovely, but it reaffirmed my belief that it was better to have boys. That angel will, suddenly and probably without warning, morph into a little bitch with an attitude. Add the fact that pimply little shits will be trying to get in her pants and yeah, fark that.<br><br>
Those with daughters here, I salute you and wish you all the best. May your little angels remain that way.<strong> Those with 3 daughters... I'm sure there are support groups for that</strong>.</p>
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Cheers guys, yeah I read to the little man every night, but he demands I read every single book in his entire library to get out of going to sleep. I generally read a couple of books, then turn out the lights and sing a couple of songs and he's all good.<br><br>
I'm finding now that if he has a nap during the day then he is still bouncing off the walls at 9pm, so am thinking about stopping the naps. -
<p>Anyone who thinks they're in a shit situation with kids:<br><br>
My daughter had a friend over today, who we've always wondered a bit about - the Mum is 10 years older than us, kid has a different surname from the Mum and her hubby, as well as her older kids. Accident? Other marriage or some weird shit?<br><br>
Weird as fuck, as it turns out - "Mum" is biological aunt, took the girl off her Ice (Meth) addict brother and basically bankrupted themselves to do it because of the legal challenges they had to mount to save her life as a baby. Other option was giving her back to fuck face, or going into state foster care.<br><br>
Had to air all their laundry in court, which fucked up a bunch of other family relationships (including the grandmother) and now she lives in <strike>great</strike> <strong>fear</strong> the brother will turn up in a rage, or even worse, in secret, and start doing damage, kidnap, etc<br><br>
Fucked. Up.<br><br>
So, next time you're having a shit day, think about those parents who have taken in upon themselves to prove blood is thicker than water.</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="No Quarter" data-cid="551556" data-time="1452318817"><p>Cheers guys, yeah I read to the little man every night, but he demands I read every single book in his entire library to get out of going to sleep. I generally read a couple of books, then turn out the lights and sing a couple of songs and he's all good.<br>
I'm finding now that if he has a nap during the day then he is still bouncing off the walls at 9pm, so am thinking about stopping the naps.</p></blockquote>Sounds like it's time. Better to drop the midday break to keep your evenings -
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<p>Sounds like it's time. Better to drop the midday break to keep your evenings</p>
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<p>Thats one thing we have always been hugely strict on, consistent bedtime to ensure we have an evening.</p>
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<p>School nights they are settling down after being read to about 7.40, so that come 8pm they have stopped messing about, most of the time....</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="jegga" data-cid="551562" data-time="1452322320"><p>A guy I know lets his kids stay up till 9:30 or so, reckons they don't wake up so early . I'm not so sure about that but he's Chinese and says it's pretty common amongst their community .</p></blockquote>
My kids are solar powered in terms of getting a start in the morning - sun up, they up! -
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How old are they? When my boy got to 11 I'd go in and wake him and he'd pull the covers over his head poke and say " give me five more minutes" . Now I've got to drag him out of bed. -
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<p>A guy I know lets his kids stay up till 9:30 or so, reckons they don't wake up so early . I'm not so sure about that but he's Chinese and says it's pretty common amongst their community .</p>
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<p>Very common in the overseas chinese community. One of my workmates' kids are in their early teens, up at all hours, eat dinner around 8 and stuff, sleep in until late. It means you get no grown up time so my kids go down about 7.30pm</p> -
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<p>Mooshld at the Insistence of the ex I went to a fathers group one night, they were all a bunch of whining twats apart from the guy running the group who had raised his son by himself. He described how he ended the public tantrums , his son tyres himself down on the ground at a supermarket because his dad wouldn't buy him chocolates so he did the same thing waving his arms and legs in the air and moaning. He said within seconds his son was standing next to him tugging his shirt tling him to stop. He reckoned that ended the tantrums .<br><br>
The other guys were wimps moaning about how dad's are made to look stupid in ads on TV , I never went back . I'm surprised their wives/partners were able to conceive at all from such effeminate stock.</p>
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<p>There was a great story a few years back about a mother who would river dance her tween/teen daughter into line when she went postal in public. I don't have any sprogs in my life yet but reckon you lot are a good bunch of parents. I've got a teaching background and for me a big part of it was helping to develop good people. That totally extends to how I interact with relations and friends kids, but nothing beats winding em up and handing em back :whistle:</p> -
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<p>How old are they? When my boy got to 11 I'd go in and wake him and he'd pull the covers over his head poke and say " give me five more minutes" . Now I've got to drag him out of bed.</p>
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<p>He 11, Her 8. The latter more inclined to sleep in. The boy is wired like a mofo.</p> -
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<p>He 11, Her 8. The latter more inclined to sleep in. The boy is wired like a mofo.</p>
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<p>Wait until he hits mid teens, he'll be sleeping late like the rest of them ;)</p> -
I mentioned the fuck up bro in law, there was a while before the mother sorted her shit out when I though we would take their daughter on.<br><br>
Even after she got clean we looked after her a heap. Taught her a heap her dad should have taught her. Surrogated at a "dads" day at school. I feel so sorry for kids with a deadbeat parent. How do the ones with two do it -
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<p>I mentioned the fuck up bro in law, there was a while before the mother sorted her shit out when I though we would take their daughter on.<br><br>
Even after she got clean we looked after her a heap. Taught her a heap her dad should have taught her. Surrogated at a "dads" day at school. I feel so sorry for kids with a deadbeat parent. How do the ones with two do it</p>
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<p> The answer is some do and some don't. Ms Cato no1 had a boyfriend a while back. They first knew each other in primary school, then went to different high schools. He had a very difficult childhood with two drug addict, alcoholic parents and spent a lot of time being looked after by grandparents, friends' parents, foster parents, care homes and the drunk old mad woman next door while his shithead parents were either incapable or in prison. They met again many years later and against all odds the lad had done bloody well. Was clean himself (a major feat just on its own) and had joined the Parachute Regiment - could have joined the Royal Marines but they are locally based and he wanted to make a break. He's now doing really well as far as I can tell (they broke up a year or two back). Though the poor bugger's done three tours in Afghanistan, nasty work too. But his is a story that is quite uplifting and he's done this by his own will. Chapeau!</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="NTA" data-cid="551575" data-time="1452333353"><p>He 11, Her 8. The latter more inclined to sleep in. The boy is wired like a mofo.</p></blockquote>
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Same as mine...we often have to wake Miss 7 up, but I have to tell TR Jnr he is to read or do something quiet in his room until 7 dos he can't get up and be quiet.