Modern Day Parenting
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Much like Virgil i have the perfect child ... so you losers must be doing something wrong. <br><br>
A big thing for us though is there is there is only one so no siblings to fight with.<br><br>
Pretty switched on. Has had some tweenie girl dramas.<br><br>
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<p>Give it ten years and the fern will have a thread about retirement schemes and Kiwisaver. 20 years and we'll be debating the merits of retirement villages vs stay at home. </p>
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<p>Give it ten years and the fern will have a thread about retirement schemes and Kiwisaver. 20 years and we'll be debating the merits of retirement villages vs stay at home. </p>
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<p>A few years since we had multiple candidates for Most Likely to Post Drunk :)</p>
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<p>finally, a thread DM can excel on!</p>
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<p>Yeah hes 20 months old and prone to getting ear infections. So sadly letting him freeze and get sick is not really an option.</p>
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<p>New plan decided last night is he can go nuts at home and we will just walk away till hes done. But if we are visiting friends or grandparents a higher standard of behavior is expected from the kids, tantrums will get you removed from the room immediately. We will both enforce that. But one person will be chosen to be sheriff before the event. As for laying down in the car park of the largest mall in one of the busiest cities in the world. That is going to be a work in progress with a few different strategies being tried out.</p> -
Nice moohld, the key is to work out the strategies together so you present a united front. Even at that age they are good at pitting you against each other. I am hopeful just ignoring the tantrum altogether will help you guys, it seems to be working for us in that the tantrum stops fairly quickly when he realises neither of us are paying any attention.<br><br>
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<p><strong>Yeah hes 20 months old and prone to getting ear infections. </strong>So sadly letting him freeze and get sick is not really an option.</p>
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<p>New plan decided last night is he can go nuts at home and we will just walk away till hes done. But if we are visiting friends or grandparents a higher standard of behavior is expected from the kids, tantrums will get you removed from the room immediately. We will both enforce that. But one person will be chosen to be sheriff before the event. As for laying down in the car park of the largest mall in one of the busiest cities in the world. That is going to be a work in progress with a few different strategies being tried out.</p>
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<p>They Suck! My boy had to have grommets twice and his adenoids out! </p>
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<p>Really tough when they are in so much pain and you cant do jack, and are frustrated cos it is 3am and they are screaming :(</p>
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<p>On another note, anyone got tips for getting the little terror to bed? He has been fine until fairly recently, but now he seems more and more reluctant and tries all manner of things to get out of it.</p>
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<p>They all do it, mine go through phases (still at 7 & 10) where they are sweet, others they are just up...amazong how many sore tummies, headaches, tooth aches, ulcers and all manner of illnesses they seem to get at bedtime! </p>
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<p>TR Jnr is bordering on being a hypercondriac (sp) at times, mind you it doesnt help when his Granny is over form the UK she totally buys into his shit, and indulges it...when she was over last year it got to the point I was asking him what he had before he went to bed! </p>
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<p>Reading in thier bed is one thing I still do now (although proper books - and they read character voices) but they go to bed earlier, and we read...mis-behave, they lose reading, and mine hate losing reading, cos they still go to bed at the same time.</p> -
<p>Reading a story to your kid when they are in bed, and all tucked up another your arm is one the great pleasures of being a parent. Being interactive with them around the colours, pictures and getting them to turn the pages etc is really nice.</p>
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<p>And that feeling when you can feel them going to sleep, so you tuck them in and leave the room. Well, the room gets a little dusty, that's all I'm going to say.</p>
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<p>Reading a story to your kid when they are in bed, and all tucked up another your arm is one the great pleasures of being a parent. Being interactive with them around the colours, pictures and getting them to turn the pages etc is really nice.</p>
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<p>And that feeling when you can feel them going to sleep, so you tuck them in and leave the room. Well, the room gets a little dusty, that's all I'm going to say.</p>
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<p>Right, time for a beer or a shit or something. </p>
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<p>Lost count of the amount of times I woke up in my boys bed as we both fell asleep reading a story when it was just the two of us. Unfortunately kids beds aren't built for two so I would wake up because I was cold and contorted to try and stay on the bed.</p> -
I've read to my kids every night since the first was born. It's great because I love doing it, and I'm convinced it's why my eldest's reading age is so far advanced. And I love that he now reads himself every night after story time.
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<p>Yeah we do books every night the kids look forward to it I think. Little yellow digger perky the pukeko, old school like Hairy Mcleary and even some stuff not written a million years ago.</p>
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<p>Both are booked in to get grommets next week for their ears, hopefully that will be the end of it. But we shall see.</p> -
<p>This is just a vent more than anything else.</p>
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<p>My daughter is 14 and a stunner. She looks 18 and she knows it. The last year and a half has been pretty close to hell for all three of us. Me. my wife and my daughter. My son doesn't really seem to give a shit and just seems to crack jokes when we're clashing heads.</p>
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<p>I don't imagine its anything no-one else has been through but for my sample size of the world its been shit. All made more perplexing by the fact she is an exceptional student.</p>
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<p>We've had the usual rebellious behaviour. running away - worst night of my life - verbally abusing her mother but worst of all(and no matter how many times i said never, ever do it) sending compromising photo's of her self to boys. I am a young father so I guess I have a few new school ideas** about fatherhood and I have always encouraged her to be open about boys and my only real rule to date is that if she has boyfriend I am to know. Not so i can control the relationship but so she feels like she doesn't need to hide anything from us and she can feel comfortable. The reverse of course is what happens. </p>
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<p>My wife has the sex discussions and we try to make it clear that its pretty hard to do you OE, go to uni or get a job straight out of school if you're raising a child. We hope it sinks in.</p>
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<p>But its a fucking mine field. Trying not to stifle her development by setting too many boundaries while trying to maintain the ones that you have. There is light at the end of the tunnel for us though. She's been incident free for about 6 months now and shes not so interested in her devices anymore. One can hope.</p>
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<p>My son on the other hand aside from a bit of a nasty streak when it comes to sharing a bathroom with his big sister, tipping her products down the toilet, is almost the perfect child. For now.</p>
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<p>We are caring, involved parents and we now when to discipline and to give them space but some times shit just happens and no amount of best intentions and sound parenting can overcome it.</p>
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<p>**I still have some old school ideas too about fucking up any little c*nt that a, hurts or b.impregnates my daughter.</p> -
Obviously a small sample size her, but it seems girls can be a much bigger problem than boys. Personally I've always been relieved that I only have boys. I know how they think and how they'll have to struggle not to act like semi-evolved Neanderthals. Boys do stupid shit, but so long as they don't die they'll generally be ok. But girls... I stayed with some friends overseas recently. They have two girls aged 4 and 6. The 6 year old took a liking to me and it was a joy to spend time with her. I took her to school each day, took her to the playground and cafe, watched Frozen with her, and she was really sad when I had to leave. It was lovely, but it reaffirmed my belief that it was better to have boys. That angel will, suddenly and probably without warning, morph into a little bitch with an attitude. Add the fact that pimply little shits will be trying to get in her pants and yeah, fark that. <br><br>
Those with daughters here, I salute you and wish you all the best. May your little angels remain that way. Those with 3 daughters... I'm sure there are support groups for that. -
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<p>Obviously a small sample size her, but it seems girls can be a much bigger problem than boys. Personally I've always been relieved that I only have boys. I know how they think and how they'll have to struggle not to act like semi-evolved Neanderthals. Boys do stupid shit, but so long as they don't die they'll generally be ok. But girls... I stayed with some friends overseas recently. They have two girls aged 4 and 6. The 6 year old took a liking to me and it was a joy to spend time with her. I took her to school each day, took her to the playground and cafe, watched Frozen with her, and she was really sad when I had to leave. It was lovely, but it reaffirmed my belief that it was better to have boys. That angel will, suddenly and probably without warning, morph into a little bitch with an attitude. Add the fact that pimply little shits will be trying to get in her pants and yeah, fark that.<br><br>
Those with daughters here, I salute you and wish you all the best. May your little angels remain that way.<strong> Those with 3 daughters... I'm sure there are support groups for that</strong>.</p>
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Cheers guys, yeah I read to the little man every night, but he demands I read every single book in his entire library to get out of going to sleep. I generally read a couple of books, then turn out the lights and sing a couple of songs and he's all good.<br><br>
I'm finding now that if he has a nap during the day then he is still bouncing off the walls at 9pm, so am thinking about stopping the naps. -
<p>Anyone who thinks they're in a shit situation with kids:<br><br>
My daughter had a friend over today, who we've always wondered a bit about - the Mum is 10 years older than us, kid has a different surname from the Mum and her hubby, as well as her older kids. Accident? Other marriage or some weird shit?<br><br>
Weird as fuck, as it turns out - "Mum" is biological aunt, took the girl off her Ice (Meth) addict brother and basically bankrupted themselves to do it because of the legal challenges they had to mount to save her life as a baby. Other option was giving her back to fuck face, or going into state foster care.<br><br>
Had to air all their laundry in court, which fucked up a bunch of other family relationships (including the grandmother) and now she lives in <strike>great</strike> <strong>fear</strong> the brother will turn up in a rage, or even worse, in secret, and start doing damage, kidnap, etc<br><br>
Fucked. Up.<br><br>
So, next time you're having a shit day, think about those parents who have taken in upon themselves to prove blood is thicker than water.</p> -
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I'm finding now that if he has a nap during the day then he is still bouncing off the walls at 9pm, so am thinking about stopping the naps.</p></blockquote>Sounds like it's time. Better to drop the midday break to keep your evenings -
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<p>Sounds like it's time. Better to drop the midday break to keep your evenings</p>
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<p>Thats one thing we have always been hugely strict on, consistent bedtime to ensure we have an evening.</p>
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<p>School nights they are settling down after being read to about 7.40, so that come 8pm they have stopped messing about, most of the time....</p>
