Modern Day Parenting
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<p>having met you Virgil, hate to be the one to break it to you, but your Missus has been playing away then bro ;)</p>
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<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="taniwharugby" data-cid="551211" data-time="1452138453"><p>having met you Virgil, hate to be the one to break it to you, but your Missus has been playing away then bro ;)</p></blockquote>
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<p>Are u saying I'm too ugly a bastard to have produced 3 perfect beautiful girls ?</p>
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<p>Classic rant there . My step brother has two kids, a son who would make any parent very proud and a trollop .<br>
The writing was on the wall with trollop fairly early on and she predictably got pregnant at 15 and named her kid after her favourite sons of anarchy character. When my old man rang up her grandmother to ask if the father to be was going to help with the baby the grandmother replied " we aren't sure who he is but we know who the candidates are" classy.</p>
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<p>A mate of mine who I reckon is a great dad had some good tips when my boy was small , one of my favourites was what he called " big boy" ie " do you want dad to spoon feed or or can you do it yourself like a big boy?" Most kids are going to jump at the chance to be a "big boy" . Little boy works too , you can't overuse it obviously but it's handy when you sang to coerce a kid into doing what you want with a minimum of fuss and they do eventually grow out on it. Maybe when he has a few more words and he says he wants to do something you could say it's a big boy thing and if he tries to say he's a big boy point out only little boys throw themselves on the ground and scream? Worth a try it's as manipulative as hell but its your sanity and peace that's at stake here .<br><br><br>
OAS for the parents of girls , I've two mates who both have two girls only and one poor bastard who has three . My boy was talking to one of them a few years back and I caught him saying to one of him<br>
" where are you going to build your compound?"<br>
"What do you mean?'"<br>
"Well dad said if I was a girl he'd have built a compound in the hills by thd tme I was 14 to keep teenage boys away....."<br><br>
That was awkward with the guys mrs and mine too, my mate understood.</p>
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<p>Yeah we do the big boy little boy thing with the older one. He can understand it though without any verbal feedback from the younger I am not sure he truly understands. It seems to work really well. </p>
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<p>In the house I just lay him down on the floor now and walk away. Its a pain when you are all but ready to leave the house and he decides no jacket today so you end up standing there waiting for him</p>
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<p>My real concern is that it gets worse. We had a neighbor here whose 5 year old would just out right assault his mother, I really felt for her as she was just not strong enough to do much against him. Whats that kid going to be like in another 5 years, its a slippery slope.</p> -
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<p>Its a pain when you are all but ready to leave the house and he decides no jacket today so you end up standing there waiting for him</p>
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<p>Then he gets cold. And a reminder every time he complains that HE was the one who didn't want a jacket :)</p> -
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<p>My favourite is getting your kids to go to the toilet before you go out, they always say no they dont need to go.</p>
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<p>Or at the shops you pass a toilet, do you need to go ? "No we are ok." You take them into a shop you wanted to go to, next minute....</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="taniwharugby" data-cid="551345" data-time="1452190469"><p>Sadly kids don't grasp the 'told you so concept' <br>
Best bet is to put another jacket in the car and say oh look when they are cold....</p></blockquote>I try to adopt the boy scout mantra, always be prepared. I remember CF jnr going nuts when he realised I forgot his drink bottle going to toddler soccer. Almost missed his entire session, not what I expected from a four year old but then again perfectly expected -
Much like Virgil i have the perfect child ... so you losers must be doing something wrong. <br><br>
A big thing for us though is there is there is only one so no siblings to fight with.<br><br>
Pretty switched on. Has had some tweenie girl dramas.<br><br>
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<p>Give it ten years and the fern will have a thread about retirement schemes and Kiwisaver. 20 years and we'll be debating the merits of retirement villages vs stay at home. </p>
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<p>A few years since we had multiple candidates for Most Likely to Post Drunk :)</p> -
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<p>Give it ten years and the fern will have a thread about retirement schemes and Kiwisaver. 20 years and we'll be debating the merits of retirement villages vs stay at home. </p>
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<p>A few years since we had multiple candidates for Most Likely to Post Drunk :)</p>
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<p>finally, a thread DM can excel on!</p>
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<p>Yeah hes 20 months old and prone to getting ear infections. So sadly letting him freeze and get sick is not really an option.</p>
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<p>New plan decided last night is he can go nuts at home and we will just walk away till hes done. But if we are visiting friends or grandparents a higher standard of behavior is expected from the kids, tantrums will get you removed from the room immediately. We will both enforce that. But one person will be chosen to be sheriff before the event. As for laying down in the car park of the largest mall in one of the busiest cities in the world. That is going to be a work in progress with a few different strategies being tried out.</p> -
Nice moohld, the key is to work out the strategies together so you present a united front. Even at that age they are good at pitting you against each other. I am hopeful just ignoring the tantrum altogether will help you guys, it seems to be working for us in that the tantrum stops fairly quickly when he realises neither of us are paying any attention.<br><br>
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<p><strong>Yeah hes 20 months old and prone to getting ear infections. </strong>So sadly letting him freeze and get sick is not really an option.</p>
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<p>New plan decided last night is he can go nuts at home and we will just walk away till hes done. But if we are visiting friends or grandparents a higher standard of behavior is expected from the kids, tantrums will get you removed from the room immediately. We will both enforce that. But one person will be chosen to be sheriff before the event. As for laying down in the car park of the largest mall in one of the busiest cities in the world. That is going to be a work in progress with a few different strategies being tried out.</p>
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<p>They Suck! My boy had to have grommets twice and his adenoids out! </p>
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<p>Really tough when they are in so much pain and you cant do jack, and are frustrated cos it is 3am and they are screaming :(</p>
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<p>On another note, anyone got tips for getting the little terror to bed? He has been fine until fairly recently, but now he seems more and more reluctant and tries all manner of things to get out of it.</p>
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<p>They all do it, mine go through phases (still at 7 & 10) where they are sweet, others they are just up...amazong how many sore tummies, headaches, tooth aches, ulcers and all manner of illnesses they seem to get at bedtime! </p>
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<p>TR Jnr is bordering on being a hypercondriac (sp) at times, mind you it doesnt help when his Granny is over form the UK she totally buys into his shit, and indulges it...when she was over last year it got to the point I was asking him what he had before he went to bed! </p>
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<p>Reading in thier bed is one thing I still do now (although proper books - and they read character voices) but they go to bed earlier, and we read...mis-behave, they lose reading, and mine hate losing reading, cos they still go to bed at the same time.</p> -
<p>Reading a story to your kid when they are in bed, and all tucked up another your arm is one the great pleasures of being a parent. Being interactive with them around the colours, pictures and getting them to turn the pages etc is really nice.</p>
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<p>And that feeling when you can feel them going to sleep, so you tuck them in and leave the room. Well, the room gets a little dusty, that's all I'm going to say.</p>
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<p>Reading a story to your kid when they are in bed, and all tucked up another your arm is one the great pleasures of being a parent. Being interactive with them around the colours, pictures and getting them to turn the pages etc is really nice.</p>
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<p>And that feeling when you can feel them going to sleep, so you tuck them in and leave the room. Well, the room gets a little dusty, that's all I'm going to say.</p>
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<p>Right, time for a beer or a shit or something. </p>
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<p>Lost count of the amount of times I woke up in my boys bed as we both fell asleep reading a story when it was just the two of us. Unfortunately kids beds aren't built for two so I would wake up because I was cold and contorted to try and stay on the bed.</p>
