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<p>On the united front, I agree it's incredibly important. I am always happy to let my boy have his tantrums and calm down on his own, as I figure that is an important thing for him to learn, but the wife is always desperate to pick him up, cuddle him and give him what he wants </p>
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<p>Rewarding that kind of behaviour will only go one place.</p>
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<p>At the boy's 2nd birthday party, he got one of those big plastic cars, and was sitting in it when his cousin (female 5 months younger) toddled over and scratched him down the face. Mrs TA and I were livid. Kid's mother (wife of the bogan brother-in-law) picked her up and said "No! Don't scratch people!" then proceeded to shower her in kisses and carried her around for the next 10 minutes.</p>
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<p>What kind of behaviour do you think THAT teaches? Sure enough, she's now a little turd because of that style of parenting. Boganity is a calling, and she's running straight at it, the ugly little shit.</p> -
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<p>I wasn't sure how much traction this thread would get but it's been a really good read. Thanks for the honest replies and opinions guys, none of the bullshit "my kids are perfect and I'm the greatest parent ever" crap you get elsewhere. It is good to know I am not the only one with a child bordering on insane, and that others have many of the same concerns that I do.<br><br>
Reading this reminds me of what a colleague said when I told him my wife was pregnant. "Don't worry mate, they say it's only hard for the first 21 years..." I don't think he was joking in hindsight.</p>
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<p>Always remember NQ, people only show about the top 1% of their life on social networks. For every post of little Johnny holding up a certificate, or winning a running race, or coming top of his class, there are 99 moments where little Johnny hit his sister, had a tantrum, shat the bed, and told Mummy he didn't love her.</p> -
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<p>Always remember NQ, people only show about the top 1% of their life on social networks. <strong> For every post of little Johnny holding up a certificate, or winning a running race, or coming top of his class</strong>, there are 99 moments where little Johnny hit his sister, had a tantrum, shat the bed, and told Mummy he didn't love her.</p>
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<p>fuck that gives me the shits seeing that, someone close to me does it a lot, and they gush over any little thing their kid does and plaster it on facebook, not to mention a husband and wife most likely sitting next to one another on the couch both replying to comments about it separately on FB...</p>
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<p>OK with proud parents and the like, but the sickly treacle gushing BS that you see is what winds me up no end!</p>
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<p>I have posted things in the exact fashion they do to see what response I get, but it must be normal in their world.</p>
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<p>The social media aspect is actually a really interesting one too.</p>
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<p>When we first had our boy we were posting a few pictures of him every now and then. But after quite a long discussion we decided to remove these, and not post any more. We felt that it is too public a place to be sharing intimate photos of our son in his early years of life.</p>
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<p>Look at it this way - would you like to have thousands of pictures of you doing all sorts of stupid shit as a child plastered all over the internet?</p>
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<p>We don't really know what the consequences of mass sharing of these photos will do when our kids grow up. If they work in a public facing role then the media etc will have no shortage of pictures to find. E.G. "Here's a picture of John Key taking his first shit!" etc.</p>
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<p>So we are playing it on the safe side. We regularly email photos to our family, but ask they they do not share them on Facebook etc.</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="NTA" data-cid="551083" data-time="1452118854"><p>Rewarding that kind of behaviour will only go one place.<br>
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At the boy's 2nd birthday party, he got one of those big plastic cars, and was sitting in it when his cousin (female 5 months younger) toddled over and scratched him down the face. Mrs TA and I were livid. Kid's mother (wife of the bogan brother-in-law) picked her up and said "No! Don't scratch people!" then proceeded to shower her in kisses and carried her around for the next 10 minutes.<br>
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What kind of behaviour do you think THAT teaches? Sure enough, she's now a little turd because of that style of parenting. Boganity is a calling, and she's running straight at it, the ugly little shit.</p></blockquote>
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Classic rant there . My step brother has two kids, a son who would make any parent very proud and a trollop . <br>
The writing was on the wall with trollop fairly early on and she predictably got pregnant at 15 and named her kid after her favourite sons of anarchy character. When my old man rang up her grandmother to ask if the father to be was going to help with the baby the grandmother replied " we aren't sure who he is but we know who the candidates are" classy. -
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<p>I wasn't sure how much traction this thread would get but it's been a really good read. Thanks for the honest replies and opinions guys, none of the bullshit "my kids are perfect and I'm the greatest parent ever" crap you get elsewhere. It is good to know I am not the only one with a child bordering on insane, and that others have many of the same concerns that I do.<br><br>
Reading this reminds me of what a colleague said when I told him my wife was pregnant. "Don't worry mate, they say it's only hard for the first 21 years..." I don't think he was joking in hindsight.</p>
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<p>Dont know about you dicks but all of my kids are fucken perfect. Brilliant and clever and perfectly mannered.</p>
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<p>having met you Virgil, hate to be the one to break it to you, but your Missus has been playing away then bro ;)</p>
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<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="taniwharugby" data-cid="551211" data-time="1452138453"><p>having met you Virgil, hate to be the one to break it to you, but your Missus has been playing away then bro ;)</p></blockquote>
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<p>Are u saying I'm too ugly a bastard to have produced 3 perfect beautiful girls ?</p>
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<p>Classic rant there . My step brother has two kids, a son who would make any parent very proud and a trollop .<br>
The writing was on the wall with trollop fairly early on and she predictably got pregnant at 15 and named her kid after her favourite sons of anarchy character. When my old man rang up her grandmother to ask if the father to be was going to help with the baby the grandmother replied " we aren't sure who he is but we know who the candidates are" classy.</p>
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<p>A mate of mine who I reckon is a great dad had some good tips when my boy was small , one of my favourites was what he called " big boy" ie " do you want dad to spoon feed or or can you do it yourself like a big boy?" Most kids are going to jump at the chance to be a "big boy" . Little boy works too , you can't overuse it obviously but it's handy when you sang to coerce a kid into doing what you want with a minimum of fuss and they do eventually grow out on it. Maybe when he has a few more words and he says he wants to do something you could say it's a big boy thing and if he tries to say he's a big boy point out only little boys throw themselves on the ground and scream? Worth a try it's as manipulative as hell but its your sanity and peace that's at stake here .<br><br><br>
OAS for the parents of girls , I've two mates who both have two girls only and one poor bastard who has three . My boy was talking to one of them a few years back and I caught him saying to one of him<br>
" where are you going to build your compound?"<br>
"What do you mean?'"<br>
"Well dad said if I was a girl he'd have built a compound in the hills by thd tme I was 14 to keep teenage boys away....."<br><br>
That was awkward with the guys mrs and mine too, my mate understood.</p>
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<p>Yeah we do the big boy little boy thing with the older one. He can understand it though without any verbal feedback from the younger I am not sure he truly understands. It seems to work really well. </p>
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<p>In the house I just lay him down on the floor now and walk away. Its a pain when you are all but ready to leave the house and he decides no jacket today so you end up standing there waiting for him</p>
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<p>My real concern is that it gets worse. We had a neighbor here whose 5 year old would just out right assault his mother, I really felt for her as she was just not strong enough to do much against him. Whats that kid going to be like in another 5 years, its a slippery slope.</p> -
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<p>Its a pain when you are all but ready to leave the house and he decides no jacket today so you end up standing there waiting for him</p>
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<p>Then he gets cold. And a reminder every time he complains that HE was the one who didn't want a jacket :)</p> -
Sadly kids don't grasp the 'told you so concept' <br><br>
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<p>My favourite is getting your kids to go to the toilet before you go out, they always say no they dont need to go.</p>
<p>5 mins later in the car...</p>
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<p>Or at the shops you pass a toilet, do you need to go ? "No we are ok." You take them into a shop you wanted to go to, next minute....</p> -
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Best bet is to put another jacket in the car and say oh look when they are cold....</p></blockquote>I try to adopt the boy scout mantra, always be prepared. I remember CF jnr going nuts when he realised I forgot his drink bottle going to toddler soccer. Almost missed his entire session, not what I expected from a four year old but then again perfectly expected -
Much like Virgil i have the perfect child ... so you losers must be doing something wrong. <br><br>
A big thing for us though is there is there is only one so no siblings to fight with.<br><br>
Pretty switched on. Has had some tweenie girl dramas.<br><br>
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<p>Give it ten years and the fern will have a thread about retirement schemes and Kiwisaver. 20 years and we'll be debating the merits of retirement villages vs stay at home. </p>
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<p>A few years since we had multiple candidates for Most Likely to Post Drunk :)</p> -
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<p>Give it ten years and the fern will have a thread about retirement schemes and Kiwisaver. 20 years and we'll be debating the merits of retirement villages vs stay at home. </p>
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<p>A few years since we had multiple candidates for Most Likely to Post Drunk :)</p>
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<p>finally, a thread DM can excel on!</p>
