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@kiwiwomble I moved on account of my wife's job (reasonably easy decision because it was a good opportunity for her and she earns more than me). This entailed leaving friends and family in another State and moving to a place where the weather sucks 75% of the year and there's nothing to do.
Upside was it had a net benefit to my career, made some good friends down here and Palachook aside, I can go back when I want to catch-up.
Would still go back in a heart beat, but I like my wife more than what I miss.
Probably unhelpful but I'd say nothing ventured, nothing gained and a decision to move isn't permanently binding.
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@antipodean yeah, thats where i lean, we've moved several time for her career for exactly the same reasons, her job enables us to live the life we do, i came to terms with it years ago but i think she honestly only clicked in the last couple of years when we had a fight and i pointed it out
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i know a guy heavily involved in a rugby club in Hobart, so there's a hook up
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@mariner4life really? is it a good scene? which club? i had a look but wasn't sure if it was just going to be much smaller
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@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life really? is it a good scene? which club? i had a look but wasn't sure if it was just going to be much smaller
dunno, never been there
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@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
...we like Melbourne a lot, i can move with my job so thats no issue
Key question is probably how you'll both fare in a new, small city. 200k is a massive difference with 5M in Melbourne. That said, there are pros and cons - if you're a self starter who likes getting outdoors, then smaller can be better. If you love lots of variety in restaurants, nightlife, etc, then it'll start to grate quite quickly.
I always wanted to live rural, but realised after a few years in the city that actually the things I enjoyed were linked to big city life - access to lifestyle, people, events, etc. You can do it all rural - but you have to be really determined and make an effort.
So really, weigh up the commuting, house buying, lifestyle tradeoffs. I think there's a lot to be said for living in smaller centres, and being able to get around. You have to be comfortable with a reduced variety of experiences though (that Melbourne sporting complex is truly world class, for instance).
Good luck - and whatever you choose will be the right decision for you I'm sure!
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@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
ok, as with a few times ive posted in here....im not sure this is the best place but why not, it will at least touch on several topics
Mrs Womble has a job opportunity in Hobart, Crown Solicitor so a big deal, but we're really struggling to make a call, is hobart too small and family orientated (we dont have kids), we like Melbourne a lot, i can move with my job so thats no issue
it just the stress of moving again, and we would normally go for a long weekend to get a feel for the place but we cant because of covid
She is not leaning towards not taking it because i have things like my rugby club and she saw how much i enjoyed it this year and i am leaning towards going because its amazing opportunity for her
If it's just a temporary thing then go for it. She'll never die wondering about what it would have done for her career and you get an interesting new chapter in your life. With no kids, even better. Just make sure there is a plan for return after a specific time. Nothing worse than being stuck living in a place you don't like with no foreseeable means of escape.
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
ok, as with a few times ive posted in here....im not sure this is the best place but why not, it will at least touch on several topics
Mrs Womble has a job opportunity in Hobart, Crown Solicitor so a big deal, but we're really struggling to make a call, is hobart too small and family orientated (we dont have kids), we like Melbourne a lot, i can move with my job so thats no issue
it just the stress of moving again, and we would normally go for a long weekend to get a feel for the place but we cant because of covid
She is not leaning towards not taking it because i have things like my rugby club and she saw how much i enjoyed it this year and i am leaning towards going because its amazing opportunity for her
If it's just a temporary thing then go for it. She'll never die wondering about what it would have done for her career and you get an interesting new chapter in your life. With no kids, even better. Just make sure there is a plan for return after a specific time. Nothing worse than being stuck living in a place you don't like with no foreseeable means of escape.
Thats definitely the angle we're taken, keep our place in melbourne rent it out and that should cover renting somewhere over there, only commit to a year or two (need to give it a good go) and then re think
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@kiwiwomble sounds like your mind is made up KW, Tassie it is!
All the best with the new adventure - if you make it there by Easter, let me know and we can grab a beer!
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@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
ok, as with a few times ive posted in here....im not sure this is the best place but why not, it will at least touch on several topics
Mrs Womble has a job opportunity in Hobart, Crown Solicitor so a big deal, but we're really struggling to make a call, is hobart too small and family orientated (we dont have kids), we like Melbourne a lot, i can move with my job so thats no issue
it just the stress of moving again, and we would normally go for a long weekend to get a feel for the place but we cant because of covid
She is not leaning towards not taking it because i have things like my rugby club and she saw how much i enjoyed it this year and i am leaning towards going because its amazing opportunity for her
If it's just a temporary thing then go for it. She'll never die wondering about what it would have done for her career and you get an interesting new chapter in your life. With no kids, even better. Just make sure there is a plan for return after a specific time. Nothing worse than being stuck living in a place you don't like with no foreseeable means of escape.
Thats definitely the angle we're taken, keep our place in melbourne rent it out and that should cover renting somewhere over there, only commit to a year or two (need to give it a good go) and then re think
You can happily tell your wife you have the fern nod of approval to move.
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@hooroo said in Happiness Scale:
@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
ok, as with a few times ive posted in here....im not sure this is the best place but why not, it will at least touch on several topics
Mrs Womble has a job opportunity in Hobart, Crown Solicitor so a big deal, but we're really struggling to make a call, is hobart too small and family orientated (we dont have kids), we like Melbourne a lot, i can move with my job so thats no issue
it just the stress of moving again, and we would normally go for a long weekend to get a feel for the place but we cant because of covid
She is not leaning towards not taking it because i have things like my rugby club and she saw how much i enjoyed it this year and i am leaning towards going because its amazing opportunity for her
If it's just a temporary thing then go for it. She'll never die wondering about what it would have done for her career and you get an interesting new chapter in your life. With no kids, even better. Just make sure there is a plan for return after a specific time. Nothing worse than being stuck living in a place you don't like with no foreseeable means of escape.
Thats definitely the angle we're taken, keep our place in melbourne rent it out and that should cover renting somewhere over there, only commit to a year or two (need to give it a good go) and then re think
You can happily tell your wife you have the fern nod of approval to move.
"The guys who I talk about Lego and Batman with on the internet think it's the way to go"
What could possibly go wrong?
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@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
@hooroo that might well and truly kill the deal!
"They're hawt and they're Polish!!"
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@nzzp said in Happiness Scale:
I always wanted to live rural, but realised after a few years in the city that actually the things I enjoyed were linked to big city life - access to lifestyle, people, events, etc. You can do it all rural - but you have to be really determined and make an effort.
I'm coming under some pressure to move to one of the smaller cities. Pointing out Akl is already small doesn't seem to help.
I want to move into the CBD so there's not a lot of common ground.
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@dogmeat said in Happiness Scale:
@nzzp said in Happiness Scale:
I always wanted to live rural, but realised after a few years in the city that actually the things I enjoyed were linked to big city life - access to lifestyle, people, events, etc. You can do it all rural - but you have to be really determined and make an effort.
I'm coming under some pressure to move to one of the smaller cities. Pointing out Akl is already small doesn't seem to help.
I want to move into the CBD so there's not a lot of common ground.
Matamata is just lovely mate, so long as you don't mind really average restaurants.... although one of the bakeries just won the Bakels Mince and Cheese pie award. There was no parade...
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FWIW I have family in Hobart and have spent quite a bit of time there. I really enjoy my time there and love the city (if you can call it a city). It's beautiful, great food, easy to access awesome wilderness areas.
It all depends on lifestyle I suppose. My family live on a few acres on the outskirts of town, and it takes about 20 minutes to get to the heart of the city.
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Have done a whistle stop tour of Tasmania and have to say I thought Hobart was great. The weather at that latitude can be a bit shit but you've been living in Melbourne, so.... Yes it is a smaller city, but you've still got half a dozen rugby clubs in the area and I'm sure they'd be happy to see new faces with only 5 fingers on each hand*
EDIT: What struck me was the preservation of many older buildings in the CBD - in Sydney or Melbourne a lot of stuff has been paved over to start again, but there was a heck of a lot of sandstone to my eye.
Lots of stuff in and around Hobart. Only a couple of hours to Launceston (It is LONsesston, not LAWNsesston, I recently learned) and then there's the whole wild west coast and some nice driving up the east coast as well.
If you get bored, only an hour and a bit to fly back to Melbourne which will make you appreciate it more I reckon. I heard Hobart was going to start doing international flights at some point, so you might even be able to go to NZ direct in the near future.
I like Tassie. But I also like Canberra. And have lived in neither BUT happy wife = happy life and what have you got to lose?
*I was always going there, but TBH wandering around Hobart CBD one fine spring day, we kept getting stares from the locals. I swear they could smell our genetic purity and/or noticed we weren't brother and sister-wife ...
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@hooroo said in Happiness Scale:
Matamata is just lovely mate, so long as you don't mind really average restaurants.... although one of the bakeries just won the Bakels Mince and Cheese pie award. There was no parade...
Nice spot, that. For me it took me back to my rural upbringing where you had the stock & station agents and farm supplies on the main street with the local fashion houses.
Speaking of restaurants: one thing I noticed in Tasmania @Kiwiwomble is the service is reaaaaaaaaally slow. Consistently across the whole state.
You'd think that extra head would speed them up, but no.
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