Building myself back up
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Shit been ages...
Reading through this thread from the start it's kind of ridiculous to see what turns life can take. Actually it's pretty absurd for my part. Widower, online dating and dick pics, new partner, terrible issues with son, brother disappears during Covid, both parents get cancer, finally get the balls to extract myself from terrible relationship, new relationship.
And fark me if the plot doesn't thicken. Ex had a meltdown (after 6 months mind you) when she found out I was in a new relationship. Started stalking and harrassing gf etc. I met with her to try and talk sense into her but that made it worse. Gf then dumped me for meeting with ex! Fully nukes the relationship and blocks me on all socials. Absolutely salted the farking earth. Then she rocks up at my front door about 10 days later wanting to talk and get back together. Ffs. She also issued AVO against first ex. Fark me. At this precise time I was also informed I had skin cancer and needed it removed. Both my parents also had major surgery that same week. At that point I just asked everyone to kindly leave me the fark alone. The doctor was telling me the skin cancer was the least of my problems.
Anyway I think it's good I exercise because it's probably what has kept me sane. I'm actually probably the fittest I've ever been now. Hit the apps again and have just been enjoying myself. I can definitely thank the fitness for that. No way I get these women without that. But right now just enjoying being able to do what I want to do, which is really what I should have done a long time ago. Ultimately I want to have a stable, happy relationship but I realise that those aren't exactly easy to come by, even if you do your absolute best to make it work and give it everything you have.
In terms of exercise, it's 4 gym, 4 swim, 1 long run, 1 cross training session and a shit tonne of ski ergo. Food is clean 5 days a week and then eat what I want Tuesdays and Saturdays. No scheduled rest day but will take a day off if I need it.
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@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Building myself back up:
Shit been ages...
Reading through this thread from the start it's kind of ridiculous to see what turns life can take. Actually it's pretty absurd for my part. Widower, online dating and dick pics, new partner, terrible issues with son, brother disappears during Covid, both parents get cancer, finally get the balls to extract myself from terrible relationship, new relationship.
And fark me if the plot doesn't thicken. Ex had a meltdown (after 6 months mind you) when she found out I was in a new relationship. Started stalking and harrassing gf etc. I met with her to try and talk sense into her but that made it worse. Gf then dumped me for meeting with ex! Fully nukes the relationship and blocks me on all socials. Absolutely salted the farking earth. Then she rocks up at my front door about 10 days later wanting to talk and get back together. Ffs. She also issued AVO against first ex. Fark me. At this precise time I was also informed I had skin cancer and needed it removed. Both my parents also had major surgery that same week. At that point I just asked everyone to kindly leave me the fark alone. The doctor was telling me the skin cancer was the least of my problems.
Anyway I think it's good I exercise because it's probably what has kept me sane. I'm actually probably the fittest I've ever been now. Hit the apps again and have just been enjoying myself. I can definitely thank the fitness for that. No way I get these women without that. But right now just enjoying being able to do what I want to do, which is really what I should have done a long time ago. Ultimately I want to have a stable, happy relationship but I realise that those aren't exactly easy to come by, even if you do your absolute best to make it work and give it everything you have.
In terms of exercise, it's 4 gym, 4 swim, 1 long run, 1 cross training session and a shit tonne of ski ergo. Food is clean 5 days a week and then eat what I want Tuesdays and Saturdays. No scheduled rest day but will take a day off if I need it.
Any good ones or were they pretty ordinary ?
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@MN5 you should know if you sent them bro....
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@taniwharugby said in Building myself back up:
@MN5 you should know if you sent them bro....
If you spend too long single you need to explore all options. It was a phase I went through.
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Still doing my thing although the sudden drop in temps hasn't made swimming very pleasant! Dating a doctor now which is pretty cool. Have the exercise and lifestyle to thank for that.
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Been more than a month. Should fix that.
But training has been pretty good. Only issue (as per usual) is trying to control the blow out on cheat days. Getting there.I'm also finally pulling my finger out and have signed up to become a qualified PT. Not sure when I'm going to find the time but I'm excited about doing it. Bit of a new phase. Moved house, new relationship (very early but lovely doctor lady) and maybe new career. Crazy to think that when I first accessed this forum I was in my early 20s, unmarried and childless. Now I'm 44 and a widower with 2 teenagers, one of whom will soon be 18. Where did that time go?
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Damn. Months have past.
Still doing my thing, still struggling sometimes with stuffing my face too much on cheat days. PT studies coming along ridiculously slowly. Definitely did not have the time but I'll get there. Have had some really nice positive feedback from professionals in the industry and that's good. I feel I have something to offer and can hopefully make a difference.
My youngest is getting into lifting in a big way and it's awesome to watch. Thankfully he's a smart kid (much smarter than his old man) and is good at sniffing the astonishing amount of BS to be found online. It really is crazy how much cråp there is out there. Politicians keep fapping on about fake news and misinformation, but seem to completely ignore those issues when concerning the "fitness" industry. Anyway, at least he's listening to me and being sensible and that's great. Sometimes being a good role model does pay off in the end!
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Has been many months.....
In a good place right now. Have been ridiculously busy with potential new career, study, my boys etc, but the training is and has always been non-negotiable. I've found the right balance with 2 days of eating what I want (within reason) and just can't get enough of the training. All about finding that balance and I think I'm finally getting there 🤞
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@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Building myself back up:
Has been many months.....
In a good place right now. Have been ridiculously busy with potential new career, study, my boys etc, but the training is and has always been non-negotiable. I've found the right balance with 2 days of eating what I want (within reason) and just can't get enough of the training. All about finding that balance and I think I'm finally getting there 🤞
Come on man, it’s been too long since you gave us one of your detailed calorie-by-calorie rundowns of a nasty cheat day.
Don’t hold out on us
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@voodoo said in Building myself back up:
@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Building myself back up:
Has been many months.....
In a good place right now. Have been ridiculously busy with potential new career, study, my boys etc, but the training is and has always been non-negotiable. I've found the right balance with 2 days of eating what I want (within reason) and just can't get enough of the training. All about finding that balance and I think I'm finally getting there 🤞
Come on man, it’s been too long since you gave us one of your detailed calorie-by-calorie rundowns of a nasty cheat day.
Don’t hold out on us
One thing I strangely crave like a junky is breakfast cereal like Just Right or Sultana Bran. Can inhale bowls of that stuff.
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@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Building myself back up:
@voodoo said in Building myself back up:
@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Building myself back up:
Has been many months.....
In a good place right now. Have been ridiculously busy with potential new career, study, my boys etc, but the training is and has always been non-negotiable. I've found the right balance with 2 days of eating what I want (within reason) and just can't get enough of the training. All about finding that balance and I think I'm finally getting there 🤞
Come on man, it’s been too long since you gave us one of your detailed calorie-by-calorie rundowns of a nasty cheat day.
Don’t hold out on us
One thing I strangely crave like a junky is breakfast cereal like Just Right or Sultana Bran. Can inhale bowls of that stuff.
Not going to lie, that was a disappointing response
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@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Building myself back up:
@voodoo said in Building myself back up:
@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Building myself back up:
Has been many months.....
In a good place right now. Have been ridiculously busy with potential new career, study, my boys etc, but the training is and has always been non-negotiable. I've found the right balance with 2 days of eating what I want (within reason) and just can't get enough of the training. All about finding that balance and I think I'm finally getting there 🤞
Come on man, it’s been too long since you gave us one of your detailed calorie-by-calorie rundowns of a nasty cheat day.
Don’t hold out on us
One thing I strangely crave like a junky is breakfast cereal like Just Right or Sultana Bran. Can inhale bowls of that stuff.
With shredded schnitzels on top, I hope.
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@MajorRage said in Building myself back up:
@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Building myself back up:
@voodoo said in Building myself back up:
@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Building myself back up:
Has been many months.....
In a good place right now. Have been ridiculously busy with potential new career, study, my boys etc, but the training is and has always been non-negotiable. I've found the right balance with 2 days of eating what I want (within reason) and just can't get enough of the training. All about finding that balance and I think I'm finally getting there 🤞
Come on man, it’s been too long since you gave us one of your detailed calorie-by-calorie rundowns of a nasty cheat day.
Don’t hold out on us
One thing I strangely crave like a junky is breakfast cereal like Just Right or Sultana Bran. Can inhale bowls of that stuff.
With shredded schnitzels on top, I hope.
Now we’re fucking talking!
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Keep on keeping on, but am pursuing a career change next week that will involve full time training for 7 weeks plus maintaining my own business, plus trying to finish this bloody PT training. I may have bitten off more than I can chew but hopefully I can maintain my training patterns. I've reached a point where exercise gives me genuine happiness and fulfilment and I'm worried what would happen if that was taken away.
As an aside, maybe I've had tunnel vision all my life, but I was at a shopping centre around lunch on Saturday and couldn't help be disgusted by what I saw. It seems an overwhelming majority of people are fat, flabby hyperconsumers. Its all about consuming food and consuming products. Obese groups of friends or families inhaling fast food while glued to their phones. To each their own, but I couldn't imagine a life where the high point is a trip to the food court and to blow cash on shit I don't need. It seems it's even worse since Covid. These people probably think I'm a mug with all my exercise and other pursuits. Fair enough I guess. But I'm painfully aware that we only get one shot at this thing called life and I'd rather it be as productive and healthy as possible.
But I digress 😄. I'm not exactly going to achieve my much desired balance over the next 2 months but hopefully it will be worth it in the long run. Don't want to die wondering.
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@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Building myself back up:
As an aside, maybe I've had tunnel vision all my life, but I was at a shopping centre around lunch on Saturday and couldn't help be disgusted by what I saw. It seems an overwhelming majority of people are fat, flabby hyperconsumers. Its all about consuming food and consuming products. Obese groups of friends or families inhaling fast food while glued to their phones. To each their own, but I couldn't imagine a life where the high point is a trip to the food court and to blow cash on shit I don't need. It seems it's even worse since Covid. These people probably think I'm a mug with all my exercise and other pursuits. Fair enough I guess. But I'm painfully aware that we only get one shot at this thing called life and I'd rather it be as productive and healthy as possible.
It would appear you've had tunnel vision!
We tend not to eat at food court places, and this is predominantly why. This is going to make me sound like a pretentious fuck, but if the family goes out for lunch on a weekend, we'll usually head to Guildford as it's a wanderable high street(s) with many diff type of shops, markets & places to eat. As with everything UK there are a few undesirables around but they are clearly in the minority. Generally end up at a Pho / Sushi place or something
If we go to a mall with McD, KFC etc it's just full of trash. Either bored teenagers on phones or the overweight, awful people you talk about. Nothing puts you off your food more than a seriously fat person on a mobility scooter.
Don't get me wrong, I love a bit of KFC/McD & happy to give it to my kids occasionally. But it's always take out. Always.
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Ha ha. I'm completely off those actually. I'm a Warrior Munk! Was sitting stuck in traffic heading over for yet another rendezvous and just said fůck it. It was just a dopamine hit and wasn't getting me anywhere. Feeling much better for it. When the time is right I'll get back out there.
There really isn't enough money in PT work and it was more for myself and as a side hustle. New role is in banking. It's an interesting opportunity and it's kind of now or never to give it a go. I never had the chance before because I had to be there and provide for my boys. They're getting older now (my eldest has left home and youngest is 15) and I have to start thinking about life without them being my sole focus. Obviously it's important to want to give everything for your kids but I think that can sometimes be a convenient excuse for not making a change or taking the plunge. Could turn out to be the wrong choice but, as mentioned, at least I won't die wondering!
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First week of new life. Having to be at an office obviously makes a massive difference. Didn't get a chance to do all the training sessions I usually do but then I didn't get a chance to raid the fridge every 5 minutes so diet was ridiculously on point this week. Having to prep food has been ok and having the proats and berries overnight in the fridge is absolutely farking delicious!
But cheat day today 😁. 5 schnitzels with corn chips and salsa.Again, I've probably been ridiculously blinkered and happily ensconced in my suburban hideaway, but I'm really quite alarmed by the size of people these days. It was probably trending that way and then the Covid lockdowns took it to a new level. Shit load of snacking and....energy drinks. The health system is already taking a pounding but fark me it's going to be smashed in about 10 years. Tradies at least are on their feet all day, but office staff are just exercising their fingers. They'll need to have to find some kind if monetary incentive otherwise this is going to be completely unsustainable.
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@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Building myself back up:
First week of new life. Having to be at an office obviously makes a massive difference. Didn't get a chance to do all the training sessions I usually do but then I didn't get a chance to raid the fridge every 5 minutes so diet was ridiculously on point this week. Having to prep food has been ok and having the proats and berries overnight in the fridge is absolutely farking delicious!
But cheat day today 😁. 5 schnitzels with corn chips and salsa.Again, I've probably been ridiculously blinkered and happily ensconced in my suburban hideaway, but I'm really quite alarmed by the size of people these days. It was probably trending that way and then the Covid lockdowns took it to a new level. Shit load of snacking and....energy drinks. The health system is already taking a pounding but fark me it's going to be smashed in about 10 years. Tradies at least are on their feet all day, but office staff are just exercising their fingers. They'll need to have to find some kind if monetary incentive otherwise this is going to be completely unsustainable.
When I was temping for a Government department while waiting to join the Police many moons ago they had a fire drill and I was stuck behind a couple of lardos on the stairwell, absolutely no way to slip past them ( in a real fire I suspect I’d Māori sidestep them ).
Desk jobs are fucken shocking for the wrong kind of person, so easy to binge choccie bikkies and energy drinks especially with vending machines very accessible.
