Chris Gayle. Stay Classy
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<p>and so do some guys! Big deal</p>
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<p>I'm saying the 'some girls' is a larger group than the 'some guys.'</p>
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<p>Here are some girls talking about their experiences of rejection:</p>
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<p>I don't know that <em>most</em> guys take rejection poorly, it's that <em>some</em> do, and some is enough to be wary. And being called names or physically attacked isn't the only way to take a rejection badly, though that's often all that men will understanding "taking it badly" to mean. I'm dealing with a situation where an unambiguous "no" is being taken as a "keep trying." Things like "but I'm better than your boyfriend" or "but don't I deserve a chance" are bothersome for a few different reasons, even though I doubt he's going to call me names and hit me.</p>
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<p>No. I think it's a minority but it's such an unpleasant thing to happen at all, that lots of girls are wary about it. Kind of like how there's only a small chance you'll get in a car accident but you'll still put on a seatbelt, lots if women will automatically put up some walls against the small chance the guy will have a bad reaction. Especially when that bad reaction can be scary (cursed out, followed etc)</p>
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<p>The guys who get ANGRY and call you a bitch are rare but the ones who are pushy aren't.</p>
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<p>Depends on the context. If I reject someone's offer to dance/get a drink/etc while at a party or bar, guys tend to get pretty pissed. One guy even went into a rant on how "there's a lot worse guys than me in the place you know." If you say so, buddy.</p>
<p>However, if I reject someone's offer to go out to dinner/coffee in a sober context, they usually take it okay. In my experience that is.</p>
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<p>When it comes to rejecting guys, 1/5 times I get either the "frigid bitch" reaction and maybe 2/5 times the "nice guy" woe is me reaction (which is honestly worse).</p>
<p>The other 2/5 times are usually "oh, okay".</p>
<p>It's just that those 3/5 times are soooo unpleasant.</p>
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<p><a data-ipb='nomediaparse' href='https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/2p9thd/based_on_your_experience_do_most_guys_take/'>https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/2p9thd/based_on_your_experience_do_most_guys_take/</a></p>
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<p>Do you really think the top 5 comments on a male discussion board would be the same? So, yes, it is more difficult to say no when you are a woman because you are more likely to get a negative reaction from a guy. It's not me being sexist against women for saying so. It is me criticising men who think it is okay to be pushy and ignore signals.</p>
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<p>Clearly the solution is to ban guys from asking out girls. Why take the chance.</p>
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<p>Then perhaps you could provide steps-by-step instructions for how to ask out someone from the opposite sex. Perhaps also a list of approved locations?</p>
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<p>I was scared shitless one time asking out this hot chick at the gym who I was certain was giving me the eye....she was out of my league, one of my mates said he'd buy me a box of beers if I went and asked her...I did, we went out for 6 months and she reckoned she had never even noticed me before I asked her out!</p>
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<p>I was scared shitless one time asking out this hot chick at the gym who I was certain was giving me the eye....she was out of my league, one of my mates said he'd buy me a box of beers if I went and asked her...I did, we went out for 6 months and she reckoned she had never even noticed me before I asked her out!</p>
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<p>dick move bro. Gyms are havens of macho hyper-masculinity, that's intimidating as hell. </p>
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<p>I guess I did intimidate her into saying yes to a date given I was in the middle of a 160kg lunge at the time!</p>
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<p>So she was out of TRs league, the same TR who was getting asked out left, <strong>right and centre when he was slinging drinks ?</strong></p>
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<p>Who can this goddess who walks among us actually be ?</p>
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<p>bro, that was in the UK...the accent added 3 points to my out of 10 rating, so I was a solid 6!</p> -
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<p>I guess I did intimidate her into saying yes to a date given I was in the middle of a 160kg lunge at the time!</p>
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<p>Save that sort of boasting for the fitness forums pal.</p> -
<p>naturally, you finished your set</p>
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<p>bro, that was in the UK...the accent added 3 points to my out of 10 rating, so I was a solid 6!</p>
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<p>Same here........looking like every other pasty Scots/irish fluffybunny got me back down mid range again though.......</p> -
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<p>Then perhaps you could provide steps-by-step instructions for how to ask out someone from the opposite sex. Perhaps also a list of approved locations?</p>
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<p>I'm ok, my wife has been sufficiently cowered into staying married to me for 10 years.</p>
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<p>Well, you could just not care what I think.</p>
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<p>I think it is a dick move to ask someone out if they are working, if they are busy or if there are other people around. Surely when you go to ask a woman out, you ask yourself is this a good time?</p> -
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Well, you could just not care what I think.<br><br>
I think it is a dick move to ask someone out if they are working, if they are busy or if there are other people around. Surely when you go to ask a woman out, you ask yourself is this a good time?</p></blockquote>
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<p>Well, you could just not care what I think.</p>
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<p>I think it is a dick move to ask someone out if they are working, if they are busy or if there are other people around. Surely when you go to ask a woman out, you ask yourself is this a good time?</p>
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<p>About 10 years ago I asked a colleague of mine out whilst she was working. She's now the mother of my children and my CVO.</p>
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<p>Dick move be damned. If your attracted to a girl, and you never find the right time to ask her out (because she's working is a classic lame-arse excuse), then you never know what you may miss out on.</p> -
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<p>If there are other people around? Would alone in a dark alley be more appropriate?</p>
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<p>It would certainly add to that vital "intimidation factor" that is so important.</p> -
<p>and, as a double bonus, i look my best in the dark</p>
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<p>About 10 years ago I asked a colleague of mine out whilst she was working. She's now the mother of my children and my CVO.</p>
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<p>Dick move be damned. If your attracted to a girl, and you never find the right time to ask her out (because she's working is a classic lame-arse excuse), then you never know what you may miss out on.</p>
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<p>CVO??</p> -
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<p>If there are other people around? Would alone in a dark alley be more appropriate?</p>
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<p>I'm sure you are a man of common sense</p>
