No kids, any regrets?
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Haha, nope, my birthday is 2 months prior...Christmas time is pretty much 9 months before...
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@antipodean said in No kids, any regrets?:
So your birthday falls nine months earlier?
I thought birthdays involved more "adventurous" things that are unlikely to get her pregnant.
Christmas...yep.
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@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
@antipodean said in No kids, any regrets?:
So your birthday falls nine months earlier?
I thought birthdays involved more "adventurous" things that are unlikely to get her pregnant.
Christmas...yep.
Like a bit of basement time?
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@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
@antipodean said in No kids, any regrets?:
So your birthday falls nine months earlier?
I thought birthdays involved more "adventurous" things that are unlikely to get her pregnant.
Christmas...yep.
Like a bit of basement time?
It's a cellar, and definitely does not involve anyone getting pregnant.
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@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
@antipodean said in No kids, any regrets?:
So your birthday falls nine months earlier?
I thought birthdays involved more "adventurous" things that are unlikely to get her pregnant.
Christmas...yep.
Like a bit of basement time?
It's a cellar, and definitely does not involve anyone getting pregnant.
you lying mother fucker
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@mariner4life said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
@antipodean said in No kids, any regrets?:
So your birthday falls nine months earlier?
I thought birthdays involved more "adventurous" things that are unlikely to get her pregnant.
Christmas...yep.
Like a bit of basement time?
It's a cellar, and definitely does not involve anyone getting pregnant.
you lying mother fucker
I'm much more Dexter than Fritzl.
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@MajorRage said in No kids, any regrets?:
Question for you guys who couldn't conceive when you wanted to.
Did you ever consider adoption? And any reasons as to why didn't proceed?
Its cool if people don't want to talk about it further - no pressure to respond. Reason I ask is that we had discussed it at length after we were told it was going to be difficult. The discussions ended with "we'll go down that path when we come to it" after a very long time.
Yep, we looked into it. We were in the UK at the time. Our chances were always low because we would have preferred a baby ( as most do), and as one lady told us off the record, we weren't the preferred profile. The majority of babies came from different backgrounds to ours and at the time the priority was given to placing kids with people of similar backgrounds. I get that, but it didn't help us. The more realistic option was for us to be looking at an older child with "issues". As first time parents we were wary of our chances of getting that right.
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We had an accident 15 years ago, but unfortunately he was stillborn. We were still young and poor, so figured we'd stick with the plan to build a life (house, careers etc) and continued with contraception.
We stopped the contraception after we bought our house in 2013, but no luck since. We're both 40 now, so the odds are pretty low at this stage. Haven't really discussed adoption, but our lives are pretty good without kids and we have plenty of nieces and nephews...
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@Godder said in No kids, any regrets?:
We had an accident 15 years ago, but unfortunately he was stillborn. We were still young and poor, so figured we'd stick with the plan to build a life (house, careers etc) and continued with contraception.
We stopped the contraception after we bought our house in 2013, but no luck since. We're both 40 now, so the odds are pretty low at this stage. Haven't really discussed adoption, but our lives are pretty good without kids and we have plenty of nieces and nephews...
That’s sad to hear @Godder but I’m glad you and your partner have been able to move past it
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@Godder I worked with a lady who had 3 still born births, not sure if she has managed to have kids since as her and her partner ended up separating after the 3rd and she quit her job and moved away.
Nothing anyone says to you can prepare you for the change to your life having kids makes, yet here is this little person who you instantly love and would kill for...
...and then the flipside, carrying a child and then them being still born, I can't even begin to imagine how I would get past something like that, which is where a strong relationship is needed to lean on one another, so big ups to you and your wife!
This is an amazing and heartbreaking thread!!
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@Godder this place is full of apparently decent folk (or Polish Chicks, if that floats your boat). Healthy debate is at the heart of good quality culture - professionally, in a culture, on a sports website. Argue, but don't personalise it, and support people as they go through life. It aint' difficult, just rare.
Love the Fern.
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@Godder said in No kids, any regrets?:
We had an accident 15 years ago, but unfortunately he was stillborn. We were still young and poor, so figured we'd stick with the plan to build a life (house, careers etc) and continued with contraception.
We stopped the contraception after we bought our house in 2013, but no luck since. We're both 40 now, so the odds are pretty low at this stage. Haven't really discussed adoption, but our lives are pretty good without kids and we have plenty of nieces and nephews...
Sad to hear bro.
My kids have a pretty special bond with a couple of their aunties and uncles that don’t have any children of their own. They are amazing and I will forever be grateful for the time they invest in my kids.