Lockdown/Covid Check In
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@ACT-Crusader said in Lockdown Check In:
@mariner4life said in Lockdown Check In:
@R-L Don't feel silly. This place is mostly useless fun. But it's a superb place to come.for support. Especially given the wide array of experiences to call on.
Exactly.
I remember the time I was really struggling to know if I would be able to afford a good school for my kids because I wasnโt a Wellingtonian on six figures. Came on the fern and realised most werenโt and all has been well.
Or the time when my stockbroker called me with some perplexing investment options and because of the fern I was able to tell him that peak oil was right around the corner, so he best get on to it. I will retire comfortably.
And the clarity of mind I got when I discovered right here that 6โ4 props are really number 8โs.
โWhat we do on the Fern echoes for an eternityโ
Carl Hayman. What a player
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@SynicBast said in Lockdown Check In:
@ACT-Crusader It could be worse, you could have been engaged to me...that's been a literal fatal mistake three times - henece why I've been quite happy to remain single for the last 20 years
Surprised that nobody has mentioned this - maybe they were all too scared to comment. I'm really hoping that you use "literal" like young people who don't actually know what it means? Otherwise that is bloody awful, and seriously shitty luck. Wow.
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@Snowy said in Lockdown Check In:
@SynicBast said in Lockdown Check In:
@ACT-Crusader It could be worse, you could have been engaged to me...that's been a literal fatal mistake three times - henece why I've been quite happy to remain single for the last 20 years
Surprised that nobody has mentioned this - maybe they were all too scared to comment. I'm really hoping that you use "literal" like young people who don't actually know what it means? Otherwise that is bloody awful, and seriously shitty luck. Wow.
I said exactly what I meant to say. It's been a long journey out of the tunnel and it's still very much in progress. I'd say I'm cursed but that's putting a smiley face bandaid over the scars. The good thing is I have my three daughters, their mother and my best friend of an ex who keep me in the light for the most part. I just have to watch my environment which is why I don't tend to go out to pubs or public venues - my worldview is pretty dark at the best of times.
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@SynicBast said in Lockdown Check In:
@ACT-Crusader It could be worse, you could have been engaged to me...that's been a literal fatal mistake three times - henece why I've been quite happy to remain single for the last 20 years
@SynicBast said in Lockdown Check In:
@Snowy said in Lockdown Check In:
@SynicBast said in Lockdown Check In:
@ACT-Crusader It could be worse, you could have been engaged to me...that's been a literal fatal mistake three times - henece why I've been quite happy to remain single for the last 20 years
Surprised that nobody has mentioned this - maybe they were all too scared to comment. I'm really hoping that you use "literal" like young people who don't actually know what it means? Otherwise that is bloody awful, and seriously shitty luck. Wow.
I said exactly what I meant to say. It's been a long journey out of the tunnel and it's still very much in progress. I'd say I'm cursed but that's putting a smiley face bandaid over the scars. The good thing is I have my three daughters, their mother and my best friend of an ex who keep me in the light for the most part. I just have to watch my environment which is why I don't tend to go out to pubs or public venues - my worldview is pretty dark at the best of times.
Three dead fiances is seriously tough. No wonder you are struggling mate. Great that you have the kids - lean on them, my dad does on me and it is kind of mutual benefit. Kia Kaha.
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Wow, I neglected reading this thread which had devolved in planes, trains and automobiles but have now realised that I have missed world shattering events!
@RL It has all been said. Don't feel like you can't vent on here if needed. Uninformed opinions and advice are a fern specialty. Hope things don't get too tough for you.
@voodoo just get out of PN FFS it must be effecting your mental health.
As for @synicBast I have no idea what to say really -
@Crucial said in Lockdown Check In:
Wow, I neglected reading this thread which had devolved in planes, trains and automobiles but have now realised that I have missed world shattering events!
@RL It has all been said. Don't feel like you can't vent on here if needed. Uninformed opinions and advice are a fern specialty. Hope things don't get too tough for you.
@voodoo just get out of PN FFS it must be effecting your mental health.
As for @synicBast I have no idea what to say really19 hours and counting mate
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@voodoo said in Lockdown Check In:
@Crucial said in Lockdown Check In:
Wow, I neglected reading this thread which had devolved in planes, trains and automobiles but have now realised that I have missed world shattering events!
@RL It has all been said. Don't feel like you can't vent on here if needed. Uninformed opinions and advice are a fern specialty. Hope things don't get too tough for you.
@voodoo just get out of PN FFS it must be effecting your mental health.
As for @synicBast I have no idea what to say really19 hours and counting mate
Even I am getting tense.
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@Snowy said in Lockdown Check In:
@voodoo said in Lockdown Check In:
@Crucial said in Lockdown Check In:
Wow, I neglected reading this thread which had devolved in planes, trains and automobiles but have now realised that I have missed world shattering events!
@RL It has all been said. Don't feel like you can't vent on here if needed. Uninformed opinions and advice are a fern specialty. Hope things don't get too tough for you.
@voodoo just get out of PN FFS it must be effecting your mental health.
As for @synicBast I have no idea what to say really19 hours and counting mate
Even I am getting tense.
Right????
I'm nearly wanting to receive hourly updates just so I can chill.
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just wait until about day 7 of his quarantine, that's when it will get really interesrting!
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@Snowy said in Lockdown Check In:
Three dead fiances is seriously tough. No wonder you are struggling mate. Great that you have the kids - lean on them, my dad does on me and it is kind of mutual benefit. Kia Kaha.
TBH, there are other events in my life that have sadly had more impact in terms of PTSD but I've been managing things fairly successfully for the last 25 years. I do think surviving the excesses of the late 80s and early 90s was my Keith Richards type of foundation (what does not kill you only makes you more immune etc etc)
My kids (38, 27 and 18 respectively) are all living in France along with their mother, at the vineyard where I had hoped to be living in semi-retirement, doing the occasional bit of consulting.I speak to the eldest every second day via Skype or with the family via Discord, as I have done for the last 5 years so even the current circumstances haven't changed our international bubble as it were.
Since I've been back in NZ however, I've pretty much decided that once I'm back on my feet financially (approximately 2-3 years is the estimate) and the investments in Europe start generating income again (much more modest than it was up to 10 months ago), I'll be looking to spend 6-9 months in France and return to NZ for late springs, summers and early autumn.
I've simplified my lifestyle significantly, and I have 90% of the possessions that will keep me well occupied physically and mentally, so it's now more about reconnecting with my siblings (most of whom live in the greater Wellington area) and getting on with the projects that keep me going intellectually.
One thing I am looking forward to down the road is being able to enjoy the fruits of the vineyard in France - my eldest daughter managed to get through my entire accumulated personal cellar (some 30 years worth of cellaring) in the first 18 months after she moved there and I only get one case of each vintage shipped per year.
I do miss hitting Paris with gusto with the girls, but as we've found, the collective Bast clan memory is deep enough and at times sober enough to provide a great deal of good times recall.
I hope that this post is a little more uplifting for Ferners. just typing it has helped me put things into perspective as well. The future is somewhat more tangible as a result.
I do have a nice archive of ever y AB test win from November 2004 to 2018 as well as every decent NZ cricket test performance from the McCullum era onwards to fall back on. And I can always refer to a letter I received from my favourite Batsman of all time who went through his own personal hell, encouraging me to keep looking up and onwards. I don't collect memorabilia at all, but if I did, I'd be angling for a DF bat of Marty's.
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@SynicBast said in Lockdown Check In:
@Snowy said in Lockdown Check In:
Three dead fiances is seriously tough. No wonder you are struggling mate. Great that you have the kids - lean on them, my dad does on me and it is kind of mutual benefit. Kia Kaha.
TBH, there are other events in my life that have sadly had more impact in terms of PTSD but I've been managing things fairly successfully for the last 25 years. I do think surviving the excesses of the late 80s and early 90s was my Keith Richards type of foundation (what does not kill you only makes you more immune etc etc)
My kids (38, 27 and 18 respectively) are all living in France along with their mother, at the vineyard where I had hoped to be living in semi-retirement, doing the occasional bit of consulting.I speak to the eldest every second day via Skype or with the family via Discord, as I have done for the last 5 years so even the current circumstances haven't changed our international bubble as it were.
Since I've been back in NZ however, I've pretty much decided that once I'm back on my feet financially (approximately 2-3 years is the estimate) and the investments in Europe start generating income again (much more modest than it was up to 10 months ago), I'll be looking to spend 6-9 months in France and return to NZ for late springs, summers and early autumn.
I've simplified my lifestyle significantly, and I have 90% of the possessions that will keep me well occupied physically and mentally, so it's now more about reconnecting with my siblings (most of whom live in the greater Wellington area) and getting on with the projects that keep me going intellectually.
One thing I am looking forward to down the road is being able to enjoy the fruits of the vineyard in France - my eldest daughter managed to get through my entire accumulated personal cellar (some 30 years worth of cellaring) in the first 18 months after she moved there and I only get one case of each vintage shipped per year.
I do miss hitting Paris with gusto with the girls, but as we've found, the collective Bast clan memory is deep enough and at times sober enough to provide a great deal of good times recall.
I hope that this post is a little more uplifting for Ferners. just typing it has helped me put things into perspective as well. The future is somewhat more tangible as a result.
I do have a nice archive of ever y AB test win from November 2004 to 2018 as well as every decent NZ cricket test performance from the McCullum era onwards to fall back on. And I can always refer to a letter I received from my favourite Batsman of all time who went through his own personal hell, encouraging me to keep looking up and onwards. I don't collect memorabilia at all, but if I did, I'd be angling for a DF bat of Marty's.
I'm so happy you are able to share this with us. It sounds as though you have experienced enough for a few lifetimes, let alone one.
The future does sound positive for you and that pleases me greatly.
Cheers mate!
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@SynicBast said in Lockdown Check In:
I don't collect memorabilia at all, but if I did, I'd be angling for a DF bat of Marty's.
Great to hear that things aren't perhaps as bad they seemed.
I met Marty at his sister's a few years ago, was when he released his book. He was really nice. I say that because I had met him during his playing days and he came across as quite arrogant. I suppose the first battle with cancer had taught him some humility, he even said words to that effect himself, how he had changed and was happier within.
Anyway, his sister lives down the road but I doubt that she has any of his bats lying around. I will ask on your behalf next time I see her though.
Gotta say, this thread has been great revealing who we are chatting with on here, and their travails. We all have them, just some more than others. After 20 years we aren't just bickering about sport or taking the piss (well I still will be). There we go - a covid positive.
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@R-L said in Lockdown Check In:
@Snowy said in Lockdown Check In:
Great to here
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Bugger. Fixed.
Even though you have now pointed it out for eternity with the quote. Oh, the shame!
It's tough being a spelling and grammar monitor around HERE. Just ask @booboo everybody is looking for faults.
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@Snowy said in Lockdown Check In:
@R-L said in Lockdown Check In:
@Snowy said in Lockdown Check In:
Great to here
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Bugger. Fixed.
Even though you have now pointed it out for eternity with the quote. Oh, the shame!
It's tough being a spelling and grammar monitor around HERE. Just ask @booboo everybody is looking for faults.
Lots of pedantic spelling police hear isnโt their..
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@Snowy said in Lockdown Check In:
There is a new "fernie" - the Bartman award for spelling and grammatical errors.
I've been here for 20 years and now I am getting corrected by a polish chick about my English. What is happening to my life???
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